This week is very special for my husband and I because it is the week of our wedding anniversary.
Being married isn’t without it’s difficulties, but at the same time, being married is filled with joy and revelations that are only gained, by working hard, keeping up the persistent to work things out, no matter how hard it can get and learning that in the end, we both are in it for a common goal.
This is a strong reminder how much our marriages are like our relationships with our Heavenly Father, except it’s not about a romantic love, but an agape love that is based on choices not emotions.
We choose to love Him as He has chosen to love us, but the same, it’s no one else, but us, who chooses to continue our relationship with Him or to discontinue our relationship.
I love my husband and I am in gratitude to our Heavenly Father for blessing me with being my husband’s wife, friend and companion.
We have our up’s and down’s but I am slowly learning that no one else is responsible for how I approach this, then myself.
Yes we both have our faults but we have our strengths too and it’s up to me to decide what to focus on. I can focus on our weaknesses and in the process, miss out everything that is wonderful and great with my husband or I can focus on our strengths as a married couple, as spouses, as friends, as companions and build a strong foundation.
No one ever said marriage was easy, but if I seek perfection, I lose out in a relationship and life that God has blessed us both with. Instead, I am grateful that we are both imperfect, we have our own ways and in the process, and in our awkward dance of marriage, we compliment, we lift each other up and we both strive forward toward a common goal of serving and lifting our Heavenly Father up in praise.
I find when I focus on what is wrong with my marriage, things are never right and rather than really feeling the blessings God has brought into the life of this family as a whole, I start to lose sight of the big picture.
This is a hard lesson I’m learning, that even goes with taking better care how I speak about him and what I speak about him.
Titus 3:2,”To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.”
I am is wife, I am his best friend and something I’ve learned the hard way, is that WE are THEIR cover. How we speak about them to others, reflects badly just as much on us as it does for them.
Isn’t it a great thing that our Heavenly Father is that perfect groom, who doesn’t focus on what is wrong with the “bride” but instead focuses on everything that is right with us and how we can do better for Him and for us and for everyone.
I am thankful to our Heavenly Father that He doesn’t quit when the going gets tough, but instead says, “He knows we can do it because He has already done the hard work.”
The same goes to my spouse, my husband, my friend.
I feel bad for the times I don’t appreciate him as much as I really should and I feel great for the times when we just know, he is there, I am there, we are there and we are moving forward.
Kinda like finally finding that same rhythm and rather dancing against each other, we are dancing together.
Happy Anniversary my dear love, my best friend, the life of my life and our children’s life and may God grant me more discernment and appreciation to you and through you, what God has blessed us both with.
Lord, please give me discernment in eyes, tongue, heart and soul and help me grow to be a better and more fitting wife and companion to my spouse-my friend-my husband. Help me be a source of pride and friendship he needs and deserves.
Lord, help me treat him tender as we treat the tender roots of a young plant and encouraged rather discouraged; Love rather than grieve and just remember that our husbands are humans too, they have feelings too though they may not show it, it is there.
Lord, teach me patience and humility and loving submission to my husband and be the wife he deserves and I want to be for him and for You.
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