The other night, I finished placing bible tabs on both my husband’s bible and my own and as I was doing so, I marvel every more, the similarities and differences in our bibles.

It’s made by the same manufacturer, they both serve the same purposes, but there are obvious differences in the two.

The obvious of course is that his is a dark navy blue and mine is well, pink (big surprise right?).

Although, both are devotionals, his is divided into Mon.,Tues.,Wed, you get the picture, lol.

In the same way, men and women are different yet similiar. Same story, I know, heard it time and time again, but God really had blessed us with these differences to make us fit for the different roles that we play in each other’s lives and in the grand scheme of things beyond the world we just know and the culture we just know.

Matthew 19:4-6 NIVHaven’t you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

If everyone is doing the same job, quite truthfully how can we get anything done?

It’s our differences that make us unique and why try to undo what God has created? Is it really that bad that we have to be a carbon copy of everything and everyone?

We celebrate our similarities but then under the same breathe, think nothing of buying shoes, clothes and cosmetics to accentuate and celebrate our differences but don’t allow ourselves to fill comfortable in the roles that God has given us. It’s not meant to divide us but to unite us.

Every try to fit two pieces of a puzzle that are the same? Doesn’t work does it? Just falls apart.

As I put the last tabs on my bible, I handed it over to my husband to see what he thought of it and his first comment was, “Funny how the tabs fit differently on yours than it does mine and they are the exact same type and brand that both bibles are using.”

It’s a subtle reminder from God that we all have common goals but that our differences can be our assets and not our handicaps.

Both bibles contain the same word of God; They were both NIV, they were both devotionals, but even the devotionals in them were geared for different aspects of our lives…The devotionals my husband were non-relatable to the challenges, the encouragement and the convictions I would face in my life, no more than the devotionals in my bible would not fit his.

Oh there were some that although not worded the same, came to the same conclusion and he and I could use, but there were plenty that were geared more to what he would face and I never would and could expect to encounter.

Did it make me want his instead? Not really.

Did mine make him want mine instead? Not really.

They both were going to serve the same purpose for us, but also had different wording that he and I would need separately and it wasn’t a bad thing at all.

The same can be said about our lives and the roles that we play. A husband doesn’t necessarily have to be a mother to understand what his wife is going through because just playing the role isn’t going to give him the complete picture.

He will never understand the emotions, the hormones and just the experience of being pregnant for 9 months and carrying that life we both are now raising; It’s just not going to happen, but it doesn’t devalue his role as my husband, as the father of our children.

No more than the fact that I can never and will never fully comprehand or understand the things he does and the role he plays at work but that doesn’t make me less of a wife or as a mother of his children.

I praise God for our differences because it helps us appreciate and understand our role together as husband and wife; As father and mother and as two human beings created by ONE God, for His plan and will.

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Twinkle Mom

Stay at home mother, home educator and owner of two dachshunds known as "Double Trouble",Twinkle Mom chronicles her reflections on being a Christian woman, wife and mother and her journey walking with God as she strives to grow in His light.

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